The truth is, moms stash sweets for themselves. Chocolate in any denomination is at the heart of this secret cache the kids are not supposed to know about, or if they do know where it is, and many likely do, they can smell it on mom when she comes back from her bedroom, there’s a tacit agreement that the kids are NOT to raid this private stash.
The truth is, mom will not readily admit to keeping sweets for herself. Mom is made to feel guilty whenever she doesn’t put family first. Even though she can feel desperate for a sweet something as a reward for being on her “second bowl of nerves” with the kids, she won’t come out and say she’s readily indulged in a hidden chocolate bar, or truffle or chocolate-covered pretzel she’s purchased just for herself. Enough with the guilting.